When our family dog, Sadie, passed away last year, my kids had lots of interest and confusion about the ins and outs of death.  My son, who was six years old at the time, understood the situation pretty well.  However, my 3-year-old twin daughters didn’t quite grasp the concept.

I blame myself for their confusion, as I find it difficult to explain such topics shortly and sweetly.   I explained to them that Sadie grew to be very old.  She had lived a very long, full and exciting life and there was nothing more the animal doctor could do for her.  So, Sadie passed away.

“Why did she die?”  Good question.  I told them her body became very old and simply didn’t work the way it should anymore.  My daughter, Shelby, said, “We should get new batteries for her.”  (When you are three and things stop working, it’s almost always due to bad batteries.)  My son, visibly irritated, jumped into the conversation at this point, as if to save me from further confusing my daughters.  He told them, “you can’t put batteries in animals and people.”  He told them that Sadie was just like Great Grandma Corky and Great Grammie… “They just got really old and they died.”

The next question was inevitable, “Where did Great Grandma go?”

I decided to attempt the short and sweet at this point.   So, I told them, “She is in heaven.”  There.  That outta do it.

But, Taylor’s immediate response was, “Is she an angel?”

“Well, not exactly”, I said.  “But I know she is still with us and watches over us.”

Both of my daughters, wide-eyed,  looked all around the room.   ”Where is she?”

I said, confidently, “When people die, we can’t see them with our eyes anymore, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t with us.  They stay in our hearts forever.”  Good answer, Michelle!  I gave myself an invisible pat on the back for that one.

Taylor scowled and Shelby looked down her shirt, apparently searching for Grandma.  I began to develop a headache at this point.   My son, again quite irritated, said curtly, “Shelby, she isn’t really INSIDE you!  She is in heaven.  You can’t see her.  Heaven is far away.  It’s way, way, way, way, WAY, WAY up there!”  He pointed upward dramatically.

It was at this time that my husband walked in and asked what was going on.  “Oh sure”, I thought.  “NOW he shows up.”  I told him we were discussing what happens when people die.  Taylor said confidently, “Yes, Daddy.  You can’t put batteries in people, so Grandma Corky died and she is WAY, WAY up in the ceiling.”

Shelby nodded her head and added, “With Sadie.”

I am so glad I cleared things up for them.

-Michelle